Posted by New Delhi: A woman sparked a debate online after she shared a list of things she would “never allow” her boyfriend to do. Taylor Donoghuee (@taylordonoghuee) shared the five things her partner would not be allowed to do in a video captioned, “Hot take but just my opinion.”
Rules for boyfriend list
She said that the first thing was “super obvious” which is to never let her boyfriend have a girl bestie. She said that she “doesn’t believe in them” and thinks that it can get “messy”. “You can have female friends and acquaintances but like a female best friend, absolutely not,” she said.
The next thing on the list is that she would “never not allow my boyfriend [to] let me know where he’s at location-wise.” She explained that sharing location is more of a safety thing to ensure that her partner was ok. “Am I stalking it every hour? No, but I feel like it’s just one of those things that when you care about someone, you’ll them your whereabouts,” she said.
Rules for boyfriend
Taylor added that if your partner doesn’t want to share their location, it’s a “huge red flag”.
Taylor’s boyfriend would also not be allowed to go to strip clubs.
The fourth thing on the list is that she would never allow her boyfriend to pay all the bills. She said that men paying for 100 per cent of everything is “just wrong”.
“Obviously I think, especially early on, the guy should take on majority of the bills but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t pay for a dime, also my mindset is even though we’re not married, I’m not trying to run him dry and he’s not trying to run me dry,” she said.
However, she added a disclaimer to not that she was not talking about post-marriage life with kids. “I’m talking about dating,” she said.
The final thing that the boyfriend wouldn’t be allowed to do is to like girls bikini photos on Instagram. It’s a “huge red flag for obvious reasons”, she said.
Netizens divided
The woman’s life of rules for her boyfriend has gone viral, leaving netizens divided. One user said, “Speaking of red flags, this video is one.” Another wrote, “This message has been brought to you by; INSECURITY!”
A third user added, “I hope this works for you cause there’s no way I’m telling my man what’s allowed and what’s not… he’s an adult.” Someone commented, “A relationship like this, on either side has no trust. it won’t stand the test of time.”
A post read, “People really do not understand what boundaries are in a relationship. If you don’t agree with this stuff, then don’t date someone with these boundaries. It’s that simple.”
Someone wrote, “Obviously a lot of people have been triggered by her using the word allow. she has set a boundary and standard. is that better for yall? SMH.”
Yet another added, “I agree with you on every one of these. It is basic respect and for the health of the relationship.”